Hi,
First, DFFS should not be added to the list view – only in NewForm, DispForm and EditForm. vLookup however must be added to the list view if you want the vLookup columns to render there.
The “missing” list tools can be made visible by clicking anywhere inside the “list view table” for the current list – no need to check the “select all”.
The tool you refer to is this: https://spjsblog.com/2012/01/12/bring-back-the-missing-list-tools-menu-in-list-view-with-multiple-webparts/
I have not tested this in SP2013.
Alexander